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النصيحة

قصة معروفة من مئات السنين عن ثنين غلمان , شافو فى يوم رجل كبير بالسن يتوضى بطريقة خطا , فقدمو له النصيحة بكل ذوق وادب بطريقة غير مباشرة , وقالو له ياعم شوفنا منو وضوئه احسن وعلمنا , فتعلم الرجل الوضوء , وتعلمت البشرية حسن النصيحة من احفاد الرسول عليه الصلاة والسلام , لسان حالهم يقول : عظ الناس بفعـلك ولا تعظهم بقولك .
النصيحة الكل عنده المقدرة بتقديمها , ما تتطلب جهد كبير , ولا وقت طويل في الترتيب والإعداد والتقديم , النصيحة تتطلب بعض المهارات البسيطة اللى ممكن للكل يتعلمها ,النصيحة علامة واضحة على الحب للشخص المقدمة له النصيحة ، لان من معايير الحب النصح المخلص ، الكلمة اذا خرجت من القلب دخلت الى القلب ، وإذا خرجت من اللسان لم تتجاوز الآذان , الصديق اللي يقدم النصيحة لا يمكن الاستغناء عنه , يقول أحد الحكماء : الإخوان ثلاثة ..أخ كالغـذاء تحتاج إليه كل وقت ، وأخ كالدواء تحتاج إليه أحياناً ، وأخ كالداء لاتحتاج إليه أبداً.
مقدم النصيحة لازم يحاول قدر المستطاع أنه يطبق الكلام اللى يقوله , ويتأكد من صحة الأمور اللي بني يصح فيها , يختار الوقت المناسب , يراعى نفسية الشخص اللى بقدم له النصيحة , استخدم المصطلحات المناسبة اللى ما تجرح , وإظاهر الحب قبل توجيه النصيحة .
لا بد للنصيحة انها تكون بالسر , فاذا كانت بالعلن اصبحت نوع من التوبيخ والانتقام وفضحه جدام الناس , وان كانت صحيحة وباسلوب مناسب , فالنصيحة العلنية ماراح تحقق لك الهدف منها , لكنها استفزازً للانسان المخطئ , وتخلى أذنه وقلبه بعاد عن المعانى الطيب اللي قلتها بنصيحتك له .
تذكر أن الهدف من النصيحة اهو تصحيح العيوب والأخطاء لاشخاص تحبهم ، مو إشاعة أفعالهم السيئة .
الانسان مقدم النصيحة لابد انه ما يشعر المنصوح بالكبر والتعالي ، أو اللوم والسخرية والاتهام , وبين له انك انت وغيرك ممكن اطيحون بنفس الخطأ , واحسسه بتقديرك لظروفه وأنك تتلمس له الأعذار , وان بقلبك من مشاعر الحب اللى ماراح تتغير مهما كانت الظروف , ومن المهم جدا أن ما يتحول موقف النصيحة إلى ساحة للجدال العقيم والمناقشة العدائية .
لو كنت انت الانسان اللى قدمت لك النصيحة فعلك انك ترحب بالنصيحة بقلب سمح وعقل متفتح ووجه مبتسم , عبر عن قبولك بكل امتنان وتقدير , واعزم النية داخلك على انك تعمل بالنصيحة وتغير من نفسك .
لكن السؤال لو انا قدمت النصيحة على اكمل وجه , لكن الانسان اللى قدمت له النصيحة ما تقبل وكانت ردت فعله عنيفة شراح اسوى ؟؟
احط فى بالى شغله , أن تقديم النصيحة واجب على كل انسان , واجرى على رب العالمين , وانى اتحمل الكلام احسن من انى اشوف الغلط واسكت عنه .
واكيد ان الكلمة اللى قلتها بفكر فيها ويتأثر فيه بيوم من الايام , بهالوقت بكون هالانسان مقدر وممتن للنصيحة اللى قدمتها له واهو كان معصب وما تقبلها منى

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